It is starting to feel frosty in the mornings, which makes getting up early a little intimidating. But my tea and morning basket are calling me and after years of fighting this advice from my mentors, I am answering the call.
I am not running a mile or meditating for an hour. In the past, I would set unrealistic goals about my mornings, fail and then give up. Instead, I am starting with what truly makes me happy and is doable. Tea, reading and setting my intentions for the day. Sometimes yoga happens, but I no longer feel frustrated if the kids start trailing in just as I am about to start. This shift in choosing when I wake up and how I start my day has provided one of the biggest shifts in my mindset throughout the day.
Living Intentionally for me first began with examining how I spend my personal time and whether my choices were really providing me with the nourishment and peace that I need in my life. Many of my habits, that I depended on in the name of self care, numbed my frustrations, but weren’t providing me with any lasting peace.
True self care and inner work really is a need, but so often we place it at the very bottom of our list because as mothers we are terribly good at taking care of others first and denying ourselves!
“Ironically when you truly care for yourself, exercising all the discipline that requires, you are actually in a much stronger place to give of yourself to those around you. You will be a happier parent, a more grateful spouse, a fully engaged colleague. Those who take care of themselves have the energy to take care of others joyfully because that caregiving doesn’t come at their own expense. And those who take care of themselves also have the energy to work with meaning and purpose toward a worthy goal. Which means they are also the people most likely to make the world a better place for all of us.”-Forbes
To remind myself of this need, I have created a care basket for myself that is placed right on our kitchen island. It is always noticed and easy to access. It reminds me that my self care is just as important as any of my other do tos.
Taking care of myself looks like tea in the morning, scriptures after breakfast, Celtic music playing throughout the day, listening to my body, boundaries, Tuesday night girl’s night outs, walking in cool weather, Calling my mom, watching Great British Baking Show with my hubby, enjoying a bath instead of a rushed shower…… what about you?
Feel free to share in the comments or write in your journal ✨
1. Are you experiencing peace, joy or nourishment in your own being?
2. If not, can you remember a time when you were? What was different?
3. What practices help you feel nourished?
4. Do you feel worthy of receiving self care?
5. What is a small step that you can take in your spiritual journey that will help you feel more at peace in your life?
- What do you want in your care basket?